Happy in love?
Then pause for a moment and celebrate it. Not because I said so. Just because it’s an increasingly rare state in a complicated world.
Yes, I know, I’m biased. Psychologists see people when they’re struggling in all sorts of ways, including their relationships. …
You have a decision to make — and you want a guarantee it’s the right one. Intellectually you know that’s nuts, but emotionally you want it anyway.
So, when you don’t get a guarantee, maybe you don’t decide anything. …
A man I worked with had trouble regulating his emotions.
Mostly good natured, he was prone to sudden outbursts of frustration, letting fly with harsher words than he intended. “I need to sort this,” he said. “It’s not fair on my partner.”
“Are these outbursts really sudden?” I asked. “I…
Happiness is by far the most common life goal.
Research says it’s true and many — if not most — of all the people I’ve asked in therapy or coaching sessions have said the same.
Maybe it’s a reflex answer? Maybe, when put on the spot, we’re reminded of what…
Struggling in love?
Chances are the reasons are buried in your past and the lessons you got (or didn’t get).
I work with many people who don’t get an easy start in relationships for a whole lot of reasons.
Maybe their first teachers — usually their parents — weren’t great…
“When something goes wrong in your life, just yell ‘Plot Twist’ and move on.” — Anonymous
Mental strength is a hot commodity.
And it’s set to be even hotter in the years ahead, as people try to resurrect their lives from the debris of two pandemic-stricken years.
Mental strength is…
I always ask new therapy clients the same question.
I know that makes me sound fairly robotic but I don’t mind. Because I’ve tried a lot of questions and this is the best opening line I’ve got: “What brought you here today?”
Boring, right? But it takes us to the…
Do you feel powerless over some aspects of your life?
It’s easy to believe that life happens to us and that our choices are limited, but we have more power than we ever imagined.
Arguably, one of the most powerful choices we can make is to choose to make a…
A woman told me she’d married the wrong guy.
She knew it on their wedding day — she broke down in tears with her best friend that morning. She had jitters going down the aisle. Something just felt “off”, she said. …
Rude behavior is on the rise — both online and in person.
From racist chants in sports arenas to abusive comments on online platforms, many people are confronted with rude behavior.
Those macro examples of rudeness draw justified ire, with many willing to stand up against them. …
Practical psychology for everyday life.
